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Tonight, I wanted to ask a girl out from my Spanish class... we were walking together towards the car park alone, and I was on the verge of asking her out for drinks... but I bottled it! :bonk:
Then I was kicking myself as I drove away because it's half term next week. :bang: I was half hoping she'll catch up with me at the lights so I get another chance, but she didn't.
Then I got home and found an email from the tutor to all of us just to remind us that next week is half term, so now I have her email address. :thumbs:
But I don't know if it's a good idea, surely a nice girl who drives a Subaru Impreza WRX (and previously owned two Civic Type R's) must already have a boyfriend. :'(
we were walking together towards the car park alone, and I was on the verge of asking her out for drinks... but I bottled it!Been there, done that. She was a stunner and we got along great together. But I was the problem - was married at the time. :nono:
Later found out that she had a boyfriend anyway, and she eventually left work because she was pregnant.
Just have to take it on the chin sometimes and move on. I've obviously never forgotten about her though.
Winners make it happen, losers let it happen...
Just caught sight of your sig... so true. :bang:
Kamion - you've been with the girl all night, you've only got to engage her in casual chat and ask her *slap* :D
We've all been there mate, but this thread is well named... he who hesitates is lost. ;)
Dark Star
20-10-2006, 07:11
"De árbol caído todos hacen leña" or "a quien madruga, Dios le ayuda" apply (sort of)
Check out http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Spanish_proverbs
Good luck ;)
well, I sent her an email to ask if she'd like to meet up this weekend for drinks or something... here's keeping fingers crossed. :D
Yeah, I know it's the chicken way to ask a girl out (via email). :p
Dark Star
20-10-2006, 11:03
Good man! And I hope it works out!
I hope it works out for you too.............although if you look like your avatar I dont think you have a snowball's chance in hell! :D
minimeeze
20-10-2006, 13:56
What have you got to lose? Good luck!
Good luck with that Kamion. Never assume anything when it comes to stuff like that. :nono:
I would have asked her face to face if I were you, most women love confidence in a guy! :thumbs:
Cheers,
Jewel :)
Think I would have gone with the approach of meeting up to help each other improve your spanish. That way its not a date your classmates studying, which could move on to bigger and better things.
Did this when I went back to college (different subject) worked for me :D
shiato storm
20-10-2006, 14:47
I assume you made it a quick one-liner email along the 'fancy a drink? pub at 6?' -lines rather than the embarassing torent that some plonker had sent around offices worldwide, professing his love for some girl. needless to say she declined.
fingers crossed for you Kamion
I assume you made it a quick one
:naughty: :D
You could have done the email in spanish for that novel effect :D Ableit a little cheesy :D
Thanks for the encouragement. No reply... yet... :P
Confidence when it comes to women is not one of my strong points.
Yeah, I just sent a very short email casually asking if she'd like to meet up for a drink or something over the weekend.
although if you look like your avatar I dont think you have a snowball's chance in hell! :D
I'm sure Kamions a damn good looking chimp!! :lol:
Edit: Ahem...good luck mate :thumbs:
digitalfailure
20-10-2006, 21:44
you should have just said what was on your mind, a direct approach will always let the other party exactly whats on the table.
Why would you think that she'll be attached because she drives a scoob? I know a female scoob owner who quite frankly couldn't pull in a room full of teenage male virgins......munter is not the word, but i'm going off topic :D
Always ask - I still regret not asking the lovely Carla out when I was at college 20 years ago. I'd rather remember a rejection than a missed opportunity.
Regret is a horrible emotion...
Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all...
Always ask - I still regret not asking the lovely Carla out when I was at college 20 years ago. I'd rather remember a rejection than a missed opportunity.
Regret is a horrible emotion...
Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all...
Yup, that's what I always tell myself... but can't seem to be able to open my mouth when it comes to putting it into practice. :bang:
Anyway, no reply. I got a "email delivery delayed" message from my email server late on Friday. :( I suspect it's her work email addy. :shrug:
I remember the first girl I asked out in school. She was 14, just like me (or thereabouts), and I fancied her like mad.
My mate and I concocted a plan to nick the class register to get her phone number :D
I remember one friday night I worked myself up, got ready and rang her...and asked her if she wanted to go to the pictures or something. Her reply "No I don't think so".
So I said "Why?"........cue deadly silence...lmao and a "Er er er I have to go now".
I was crushed.
Never had the confidence to ask anyone out since really. With my wife, we just sort of 'fell' into coupledom.
With my wife, we just sort of 'fell' into coupledom.
That must have hurt !
:lol:
I well remember the cringe-making horror of that silence that preceded the "err...no I don't think so..." or whatever.
But I'd rather have that than the thought of lying on my death-bed and thinking "what a waste of a life that was..."
I'll always remember the words of an old friend of mine when I was crying on her should after a painful split with a boyfriend....
If you don't climb the mountain there's no risk of falling, but then again you'll never see the view......
So true.
Or in the words of Ross and Chandler from friends. Why climb Everest when you can see it on video :D (j/k)
Or in the words of Ross and Chandler from friends. Why climb Everest when you can see it on video :D (j/k)
PMSL at you Marcel!
My own personal opinion is that I like a man to be upfront about his intentions...but ... persue me a little too intensely and Id run in the other direction.
Complicated breed, us women! :shrug:
Complicated breed, us women! :shrug:
Not really, just do as we say and all is good! :p :lol: Heh,j/k
Very interesting story there Marcel, a good looking guy like you and your afraid to ask a girl out? :thinking:
Arkady, I agree with you for once,lol :p :lol:
Jewel
Or in the words of Ross and Chandler from friends. Why climb Everest when you can see it on video :D (j/k)
LMAO :lol:
Very interesting story there Marcel, a good looking guy like you and your afraid to ask a girl out? :thinking:
I was quite the wallflower when I was young. Too shy you see. Never even really got a proper snog till i was 16, and that was with a girl who had a bigger moustache than me :(....Ahh those were the days....Wendy Willin' was her nickname...lol
LOL I find that very hard to believe, Marcel. ;)
Perhaps you knew Ivy, good up against a wall but no good in a bed!! ;)
PMSL at you Marcel!
My own personal opinion is that I like a man to be upfront about his intentions...but ... persue me a little too intensely and Id run in the other direction.
We call that 'stalking' now...
There's a fine line between stalking and persistence........Your honour :D
busterboy
23-10-2006, 17:23
Why all this bother kamion...:thinking:
Just ask her "do you or don't you"..:nuts:
Or you could sing her the musings of the infamous Kevin Bloody Wilson (Google him if you're a grown up :) )
Why all this bother kamion...:thinking:
Just ask her "do you or don't you"..:nuts:
Yeah. I *know*. But when it comes to actually putting words into action, I freeze. :shake:
No response yet btw. I will definitely ask after the next lesson. :lol:
Or you could sing her the musings of the infamous Kevin Bloody Wilson (Google him if you're a grown up :) )
Is that SFW? :P
Well he sells CD's, even Amazon sell them, and he does tours :D
The lyrics do contain naughty words though.
Think Chubby Brown, but Australian.......and funny....very funny.
Marcel would you be thinking of the song enquiring about the dad owning a brewery?
digitalfailure
23-10-2006, 19:24
I would still advise you to come straight out with it and ask her if she feels like doing the wild monkey dance after class :D
I would still advise you to come straight out with it and ask her if she feels like doing the wild monkey dance after class :D
Yes DF, you would wouldnt you .... and why am I not surprised! :p
digitalfailure
23-10-2006, 19:55
she'd be made up with an offer of making the beast with 2 backs.......trust me ;)
Complicated breed, us women! :shrug:
There's nothing complicated about being a complete bunch of psychopathic, lunatic, wallet-emptying Space-Aliens from another dimension...
Men? Understand Women? Never Happen...
There's nothing complicated about being a complete bunch of psychopathic, lunatic, wallet-emptying Space-Aliens from another dimension...
Men? Understand Women? Never Happen...
Single are we? :D
Only single men would say that...Married men would say "Enigmatic" :D
I went to watch The Last Kiss last night. It's about a 29 year old who's having a quarter life crisis. I'll be 28 next week and I'm feeling a bit of "what the heck am I doing with my life?" moment. :) I'm just drifting through life now. No aim, no idea where it's headed, no one special in my life.
Just me and this forum. :lol:
There's nothing complicated about being a complete bunch of psychopathic, lunatic, wallet-emptying Space-Aliens from another dimension...
Oi! I resemble that remark! :lol:
Actually I dont, guess I must be one of the few women who still shared a joint account with her ex for 2 years after we split ... see ... trustworthy, moi!
I'm just drifting through life now. No aim, no idea where it's headed, no one special in my life.
Just me and this forum. :lol:
Thats called being young, and hassle free single ... njoy!
... Seriously, hope you find someone special soon, preferrably a certain senorita! ;)
Get youself a copy of the 40 year old virgin. That'll lift your spirits and make you feel better about yourself. As for the drifting thing it's not exclusive to singlies. I'm married and that's great but everything else like work, education and social life wise I'm drifting along too.
As for the drifting thing it's not exclusive to singlies. I'm married and that's great but everything else like work, education and social life wise I'm drifting along too.
Good point that. :) I guess I should realise that they're all quite separate and getting someone special won't mean my life in general will get any clearer or more of an aim. :lol:
Does anyone know where their life is headed? :shrug:
LOL Just buy something. :shrug:
LOL Just buy something. :shrug:
:thinking: What do you mean?
LOL. Buy something expensive... cheer yourself up! :D
You never find what you're looking for when you're looking for it, you're more likely to trip over it. ;)
Thats called being young, and hassle free single ... njoy!
Just been thinking about this and it's true. Just a different perspective on life. I guess it's all in our frame of mind how we see a situation eh? the question is........ what should I be doing with this opportunity? :lol:
LOL. Buy something expensive... cheer yourself up! :D
You never find what you're looking for when you're looking for it, you're more likely to trip over it. ;)
Ah hah! The shopping therapy. I did buy myself something expensive for my birthday two years ago - the Civic Type-R. :lol: Did it make me happier? Yup. Did it improve my life in any other way? Not really! It did make me poorer though. :suspect: Plus I already bought myself the Canon 70-300mm IS a couple weeks ago. :) Shopping therapy isn't very effective in the long term really.
LOL Just buy something. :shrug:
LOL You sound like a woman :D
Get youself a copy of the 40 year old virgin. That'll lift your spirits and make you feel better about yourself.
Agreed - best film 'nearly ruined' by the title ever...
And yes buy stuff - you know...bloke stuff... new digi-box decoder with HDD and 7-day programme info...
or a new 80Gb iPod and a new laptop to put the iTunes on...
or a new Moby, camera lenses, shoes, shirts...stuff you don't need but makes you feel happy anyway...
and yes... still single, but thinner, wealthier and happier than I've been for years...
I just remembered this line from The Last Kiss movie that I saw yesterday:
What you feel only matters to you. It's what you do to the people you love. That's what matters. That's the only thing that counts.
You're getting maudlin now - go and rent the Texas Chainsaw Massacre or a John Wayne/John Ford Western DVD box set... 3 packs of Pringles and a 6-pack of Stella, you'll be right as rain by tea time... promise.
lol aye, get some mindless violence on the dvd, under siege or Platoon!
i remember being single...them was the days you didnt need permission to buy stuff, or get asked if this item of clothing looked ok, or what colour should you paint the bathroom....
minimeeze
24-10-2006, 18:29
Good point that. :) I guess I should realise that they're all quite separate and getting someone special won't mean my life in general will get any clearer or more of an aim. :lol:
Does anyone know where their life is headed? :shrug:
Too right! I have someone special in my life, but I often feel that life is passing me by. I have a full time job and a mortgage but I'd love to just say 'sod it', sell up and travel the world. I go through phases (like right now) where I hate my job, but then can't think of anything else that i really want to do that will pay as well. I don't have training in anything else, and this is the only job I've ever had since leaving uni. I can't afford to go back to uni and study anything else, which I would love to do.
Sorry, I didn't mean to hijack your thread Kamion, I'm just as fed up as you are!
I was about to ask out this girl tonight (via txt of course...) when I thought I should just run it by my cousin. You see, he has had this crush on the same girl for quite some time now. I had hoped that he was over that, but the reply I got was "Joe please dont do that to me, you know how I feel. We'll talk, ok?".
My cousin is one of my best mates, so now I'm really stuck! :p :shrug:
Sorry, I didn't mean to hijack your thread Kamion, I'm just as fed up as you are!
Well, it's not thread hijacking really. :) I think it's comforting to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way and some people are in the same boat as me (though I'm sorry to hear you're in the same boat, really).
I was about to ask out this girl tonight (via txt of course...) when I thought I should just run it by my cousin. You see, he has had this crush on the same girl for quite some time now. I had hoped that he was over that, but the reply I got was "Joe please dont do that to me, you know how I feel. We'll talk, ok?".
My cousin is one of my best mates, so now I'm really stuck! :p :shrug:
Right. Now I'll put on my wise-ass hat :geek: and dish out some advice. :lol: It's up to the girl to decide who she wants to go out with. Your cousin can't just hog her to himself cause he ain't got her yet. :P
digitalfailure
24-10-2006, 19:31
[homer voice]hmmmmmmmmmm.....pringles[/homer voice]
Right. Now I'll put on my wise-ass hat :geek: and dish out some advice. :lol: It's up to the girl to decide who she wants to go out with. Your cousin can't just hog her to himself cause he ain't got her yet. :P
You are absolutely right of course, but I'd rather keep my best mate than lose him and maybe get the girl! I'll see if I can talk him into it.
She's actually going out with someone else at the moment, but the vibes I'm getting mean I dont think she is happy.
I'm in the same boat too! (I think I'll start a thread in a wee while :))
Joe. Girls will come and go. Your cousin will always be your cousin. I'd say stand back, if he really feels for her. She'll choose yay or nay to him in the end, but if it were me I couldn't put my cousin through that sort of hurt, if I was that close to him.
/end of my part in the hijack :D
Girls will come and go. Your cousin will always be your cousin. I'd say stand back, if he really feels for her.
Listen to Marcel, wise words! :D
There are plenty of woman out there to date. No man or woman is worth losing a family member over. Get a grip eh! :p
Yeah, Joe T, listen to Marcel and Jewel. I obviously gave the wrong advice! :coat:
Stuff that! Take her out, get her smashed on Blue WKD, take advantage of her while she's drunk, videotape it then send the tapes to your cousin - that way you both get to enjoy the young lady in question!!!
Children...don't try this at home - Uncle Buck is only joking...
Seriously Joe - life's too short - ask her out - your cousin will get over it.
namllihs
25-10-2006, 17:27
A faint heart never won fair lady
Stuff that! Take her out, get her smashed on Blue WKD, take advantage of her while she's drunk, videotape it then send the tapes to your cousin - that way you both get to enjoy the young lady in question!!!
:razz: :razz: :razz:
:lol:
pssst, Joe, he's still single,lol DON'T ask the girl out! :lol: :D
digitalfailure
25-10-2006, 19:51
Nah, ask her straight if she wants to hop on the good foot and do the bad thang ;)
the good foot and do the bad thang ;)
umm you mean bump uglies?? :lol: that's not good advice there DF :p
umm you mean bump uglies?? :lol: that's not good advice there DF :p
LOL Not heard that for a while.
You can tell the bad boys from the good ones in this thread can't you :lol:
You can tell the bad boys from the good ones in this thread can't you :lol:
Oh yes indeed,lol :naughty: :D
Welllllll?
If you're asking for an update, I've not had a reply to my email. And it's mid-term this week so no class yesterday. :shake:
Right, tonight is the night. I'm going to ask her out after class. :eek:
Sh!t! I'm already feeling the butterflies and sweaty palms just thinking about it! :gag: :help:
Dont worry about it. Its no big deal. Just do it. :)
Yes, I asked her out. Was a bit of a chase since she was the first to leave the class and I was on the other side of the room. Unfortunately, she's attached.
Amazing thing is, I feel much better now than I did two weeks ago when I was kicking myself for not asking at all. :)
Sorry to hear that she is attached, but at least you know you tried. :)
They all say that - keep trying, she'll come round eventually. Women are like Monkeys - they never let go of one branch til they have a hold on the next...
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
They all say that - keep trying, she'll come round eventually. Women are like Monkeys - they never let go of one branch til they have a hold on the next...
PMSL :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :woot:
They all say that - keep trying, she'll come round eventually. Women are like Monkeys - they never let go of one branch til they have a hold on the next...
Yeah. I'll keep talking to her. :P
Or you could sing her the musings of the infamous Kevin Bloody Wilson (Google him if you're a grown up :) )
Bastid, that got the coffee going :D Does you're dad own a brewery was a popular intro. When the answer came back no a knowing nod of the head and "Excellent" brought many puzzled female looks.
.... and what happens next...
Are you going to torment an idiot?
shiato storm
03-11-2006, 15:22
women are like buses actually, you wait around for freakin' ages for one and then two (or more) show up at once!! ...at least thats the way it is with me!
shiato storm
03-11-2006, 15:25
You are absolutely right of course, but I'd rather keep my best mate than lose him and maybe get the girl! I'll see if I can talk him into it.
She's actually going out with someone else at the moment, but the vibes I'm getting mean I dont think she is happy.
to para-phrase one of my favourite movies:
"Why don't you just take her?
When you want cattle,
you take the cattle.
When you want food,
you take the food.
When you want a woman...
you just take the woman.
Why don't you just take her?"
god I love the three amigos...such class.
women are like buses actually, you wait around for freakin' ages for one and then two (or more) show up at once!! ...at least thats the way it is with me!
I hope you dont mean that in the way that in the way that Jimmy Carr did on one of his recent DVDs... :lol:
shiato storm
06-11-2006, 08:29
nope. never seen it - what was he getting at?
nope. never seen it - what was he getting at?
He was referring to certain women being the size of buses....
cba to read the whole thread.. did he ask her out yet?
cba to read the whole thread.. did he ask her out yet?
He did, and she is attached unfortunately.
But as we've said - that means nothing - besides, you never miss a slice off a pre-cut loaf...
Trung_EP3CTR
08-11-2006, 03:50
Unlucky Kamion
(mods, please move to Off Topic, thanks.)
Well, kind of on the same saga of my life (neverending I'm afraid), but last night was my first "date" in about 4 years. :eek: Actually, it was a double date with a colleague of mine and two girls we met off speed dating a few weeks back.
Boy, was it a crash that rivals an Extinction Level Event. :lol:
The girl I've been emailing was just texting on the phone all the time. When she wasn't texting, she was a really good laugh. Then towards midnight, she disappeared for 15 minutes. I think she was texting someone to inform them where she was because when we got asked to leave the bar, we found her downstairs talking to some other people.
We moved onto another venue and then she bumps into a guy she tells us she's not seen for 5 years or something. And then after that, she was spending more time with him than with us. At the end of the night, she went away with her long lost friend.
On the positive side, I think my friend and the other girl are on the start of something. :thumbs: They've met up separately 3 times already and seems to be getting on well.
Just thought I'd share this cause it was really surreal and quite a funny situation. :lol: I have a suspicion the long lost friend was an ex of some sort. Either ex-bf or ex-husband. :suspect:
Oh well. :shrug:
At least getting a date is an improvement from when I started this thread (from a positive point of view). :nuts:
Next time you will strike gold! I'm sure of it! :D
minimeeze
24-02-2007, 09:45
Aww Kamion - like you say, at least it was a date, even if things didn't turn out well for you. Don't give in - just make the most of it and enjoy yourself along the way. You'll find a girlfriend when you least expect to!
Forbiddenbiker
24-02-2007, 11:52
Sounds like that worked out fine, she’s obviously not for you mate, not anyway near your class... she’s missed out I recon, your way to good for her,. ;) :D
Thanks for reading and commenting, Joe, min and Adam. :)
I did have fun last night so it's ok. :) What happened doesn't really bother me that much but I was just left a bit flabbergasted by her behaviour overall. :lol: You can imagine my jaw just hanging open from her actions throughout the evening. :lol:
Cambridge is really such a small place. I met a guy who is a housemate of another colleague, and I saw a guy I met last year while viewing places to rent. I think if I were to be a bit more active going out, I would be on first name basis with everyone in Cambridge in a few weeks. :lol:
Lots of nice Lithuanian/Croatian/Latvian/Ukranian girls hereabouts, if you like that sort of thing, you know: achingly beautiful, supermodel figures (like a size 6-8, I guess), not too full of themselves, know how to treat a bloke with respect...
OK, OK. Poor and desperate to get out of the former E-Bloc sh*thole they were born in...
Still, if you're an unscrupulous hound like me...:naughty:
:nono: Bad Rob...
heh. I doubt they'll even bat an eyelid to me. Have fun, Bad Rob. :)
If you could see some of the Bosnian Used-Car salesmen that try to pass for Suave and Debonair (more like Swave and De-Boner) individuals round here (complete with cheap leather coats and 5-day stubble, B.O. and faux-Timberlands), you'd realise that any Englishmen is like a God to them here...
Lots of nice Lithuanian/Croatian/Latvian/Ukranian girls hereabouts, if you like that sort of thing, you know: achingly beautiful, supermodel figures (like a size 6-8, I guess), not too full of themselves, know how to treat a bloke with respect...
now your teasing, where's the pics? :p
I'll take some on my phone next time I'm out. Might take a few of the Pad's Wives as well so you can experience the full Horror.
Yes please. I don't think I get what "pad wives" are...
Married Soldiers are known as 'Pads' - perhaps unfairly, some of the 'Pads' wives are, shall we say... 'generous' with their affections and not always exlusively to their spouses.
In the 'old'days, it was common to see packets of 'OMO' washing powder left on windowsills to advertise that the Old Man's Out.
Nowadays, 'Pad's Wives' is a generic and unflattering nickname for the sort of predatory growler that one might associate with low-rent Army Garrison Life both in the UK and abroad.
minimeeze
01-03-2007, 07:31
Nowadays, 'Pad's Wives' is a generic and unflattering nickname for the sort of predatory growler that one might associate with low-rent Army Garrison Life both in the UK and abroad.
Well, you learn something new everyday.... I bet Aldershot is swarming with them :lol:
hypnotic
01-03-2007, 14:15
Well, you learn something new everyday.... I bet Aldershot is swarming with them :lol:
I wish :lol:
*snip*
....predatory growler .
What a descriptive phrase , just says it all :lol:
I wish :lol:
Just look out for the OMO washing powder. :thumbs:
Just look out for the OMO washing powder. :thumbs:
Jeez! tis a packet of fairy sitting on my window sill .... Ill be frightened to open the front door! :eek:
Actually Ina - there are more Women in Comfortable Shoes in the Military now than Conventional Forces.
The RAF Women's soccer team is known as the RAF Lesbian Football Team as the captain is the only straight girl there. She showers in the Gents changing rooms...(no, really...).
Whatever floats yer boat, I say.
shiato storm
01-03-2007, 23:01
Army, where the men are men and so are the women!
well, some of the men are nancies...
well, some of the men are nancies...
aint that the navy???
It is indeed the Navy - Matelots are a Rum Bunch and no mistake.
As Churchill remarked when one Admiral took umbrage at proposed Naval Reforms (Churchill was 1st Sea Lord at the time) complaining that it would erode Naval traditions:
"Naval traditions? And what are they pray? Rum, Sodomy and The Lash!"
Or as we now call it; Rum, Bum and Baccy...
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