View Full Version : Upset, need to let this out.
This is going to be rather longg...
Well I've been dating my Bf craig for 2 months, Met him at college. He was just what i've been looking for, He was different from any of the other guys. I never got to close so soon, But after a month i knew he wouldnt hurt me. He isnt like that.
Well about 3-4 weeks ago, He changed like he said he wasnt ready for a realtionship and stuff, that he needed a job and stuff blablabla.. but then we sorted it out..
he even said that he would of asked me back out :thinking: so yeah.. wasnt me forcing him back i just said "could it work, please be honest" and he said "yah" so yeah?:lol:
But anyway he wasnt well for a while, so i accepted that. I saw him Monday for the first time in a while. Everything felt back to normal i was happy (:
little did i know. He hasnt contacted me since then, I've text him, he said to his friend to let me know that He hasnt got the texts or anything like that, but tbh i think he's talking rubbish. but meh.
And i just feel like i've done something, i'm really upset, I just wanna talk to him and ask.. He was on bebo last night, and never even bothered leaving me a msg or anything to say.. y'kno? I dont ask for much.
He spends more time with his friends rather than me, Yes friends come first but whats the whole point in a realtionship, He was making excuses up for a while untill i found out he couldnt because he had no money etc.. but why couldnt he just tell me the truth i wouldnt of got so mad..
What do you guys think? :shake:
Dave Stone
22-06-2008, 01:09
I would ask him outright if he really wants to be with you. You will probably hear this a lot, but. You are young, you have lots of years ahead of you. Unfortunately you probably have lots of heartbreaks ahead as well, i am sure you will break some too. All part of lifes rich tapestry. Cheer up, move on and enjoy life. (take it from a bloke who has been around the block a few times.) Keep smiling life is way too short.
ah, young love. Sorry to hear of your woes but it sounds like you're best off without him. The best relationships are where both of you just want to be with each other, as much as the other does. Move on, it won't be long before you find someone better who will treat you nicer! :)
Mojo Jojo
22-06-2008, 01:17
write him a letter.
dont send it
read it back to yourself a few times.
this way you can look over how you really feel about the situation, it also helps you to visualise it from an external perspective.
i do it in all kinds of relationships and it really helps.
then if that fails, talk to him, and if he wont talk hun, then maybe he just isnt as into you as you are to him? harsh i know, but we girls should hold out for a man who idolises us.
p.s look at edinburghgary and the way he talks about claire (he wont mind me mentioning it) isnt that the kind of thing you want your guy to say about you?
good luck sunshine and let us know how it goes
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Think is MOJO. I know what you mean about into me..
He's the one that wanted to be with me ...
And i gave him the chance when he acted weird.. again if he just wanted to leave it.. i said i would like it to work etcc but its not my choice its his, but he said it could.
He's so ****ing lazy sorry bout the swearing but he is.
I'm actually starting to kind of lose interest in him at this moment in time. I feel obsessed over him because i'm like mabye its my phone, so i keep trying to phone but tbh he wont pick up. And i know his phone doesnt act up;)
I'm just rather confused bout it all. meh thanks for listen and i will keep you's updated
Mojo Jojo
22-06-2008, 01:29
:) anytime, and tbh he sounds like he loves the idea of you chasing him
x
cannon shooter
22-06-2008, 07:23
thats the trouble with blokes ,,,cant trust em,,, stop trying to contact him and he'ill be trying to contact you before you know it ,,,,,,but id still tell him to p*** off anyway .
cruel but fair
thats the trouble with blokes ,,,cant trust em,,, stop trying to contact him and he'ill be trying to contact you before you know it ,,,,,,but id still tell him to p*** off anyway .
cruel but fair
I totally Agree
Lots of people are not good at dealing with personal stuff and if he's ignoring your calls I think he's one of those who don't have the strength of personality to say no to your face.
Move on, there's loads of nice guys out there and life is too short to let yourself be cut up over some person who doesn't want what you want.
thats the trouble with blokes ,,,cant trust em,,,
ahem, we're not all like that ya know! Though I do agree she should tell him to clear off ;)
ahem, we're not all like that ya know! Though I do agree she should tell him to clear off ;)
I disagree, we're all arses at the end of the day, the difference is, some of us are aware of it enough to try and not be!!!!!!
He's either....
a) not as into you as you think. If he was he'd move heaven and earth to be with you. I know I've tried to do that for girls I've liked in the past.
b) Emotionally immature and not capable of talking to you and treating you like another human being or
c) Scared witless by the way he feels about you.
My money's on the first one followed by the other two in order of likeliness.
There could of course be many, many other reasons why all this is happening. Leave him a message explaining how you feel on facebook, bebo, txt etc. Don't make it too heavy or emotional, keep it light hearted or you will probably scare him off completely and sound like a stalker. Leave it up to him to get back to you, give him a week or so and don't contact him again. If he really wants you he'll get in touch, if he doesn't then your better off without him.
Life's too short to bother with blokes who're going to treat you badly. There are plenty of us out there who have good hearts and will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
Look after yourself and don't be a mug!
I left him a Msg, saying hey urm you havent contacted me is there anything up i should know.. or something along those lines not to heavy..
Thing is, he was the one that wanted me said how much he loved me, and I didnt realise it. He's rather confusing.
not good frankee.. but this sounds exactly what I did to a girl recently.
I spent a long time chasing her, about 4 months, until she started to trust me enough and we started seeing each other. But then I started acting wierd, and she didnt know what was going on as i stopped talking. Then i smoothed things out and we was back to normal, but then we went away for a night and after that.. I just dont know.. something happened and I didnt want to be with her anymore. I couldnt explain it.
I have my own issues and I spoke to her about them before we evne started getting involved, but I couldnt shake them from my head, and then I realised that I still liked my previous gf. It was safer to not continue with it as I was being a complete head f***.
These things can be really complicated, my advise is walk away and let him know that you thought he liked you and you like him, but with the way he is acting you cant keep wondering and worrying what he is doing, if he wants to be a man about it then he should speak to you.
He's either....
a) not as into you as you think. If he was he'd move heaven and earth to be with you. I know I've tried to do that for girls I've liked in the past.
b) Emotionally immature and not capable of talking to you and treating you like another human being or
c) Scared witless by the way he feels about you.
Life's too short to bother with blokes who're going to treat you badly. There are plenty of us out there who have good hearts and will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
Look after yourself and don't be a mug!
This is what I have been saying to my best friend at work. She is only 20, and I take it you are young to being at college? But I was telling her, at 20 its just to young to be messed about with at that age. Is it really worth all the worry and upset? (NO!)
You clearly don't deserve this treatment and arn't trying to play silly buggers. Hope you sort your head out and move on with it even stronger;)
Ps Not all of us men treat you like that:shake:
Hmmm, can I be rather harsh here?
Well I've been dating my Bf craig for 2 months, Met him at college.
Its not very long is it? We've all been there, you think they are the one for you, you want to be with them forever, yadda yadda... it doesnt always work out.
Noone deserves to be mucked about, dont go chasing him, and whatever happens, happens.
If you're not willing to listen to all types of advice, then you dont really want our advice after all.
Good luck :)
Betty
Your not being harsh just being honest. Which i like people being honest with me.
But i know what you mean, I'll get over it. I've been thinking whats the point in all this.
I'm happier single, I can survive as long as i'm friends with him
I've just got other troubles and its just got me down alot :(
Thanks
I just spoke to his friend, and he's going to talk to him. But meh I cant be bothered being like this, I miss being happy and having nothing to worry about
ITS THE SUMMER!!! :love:
not good frankee.. but this sounds exactly what I did to a girl recently.
I spent a long time chasing her, about 4 months, until she started to trust me enough and we started seeing each other. But then I started acting wierd, and she didnt know what was going on as i stopped talking. Then i smoothed things out and we was back to normal, but then we went away for a night and after that.. I just dont know.. something happened and I didnt want to be with her anymore. I couldnt explain it.
I have my own issues and I spoke to her about them before we evne started getting involved, but I couldnt shake them from my head, and then I realised that I still liked my previous gf. It was safer to not continue with it as I was being a complete head f***.
These things can be really complicated, my advise is walk away and let him know that you thought he liked you and you like him, but with the way he is acting you cant keep wondering and worrying what he is doing, if he wants to be a man about it then he should speak to you.
foodpoison
22-06-2008, 22:34
Ah the trouble with young love. Infatuation is really a killer.
I was completely under a girl a while ago. Everything I did revolved around her.
I realised, mate, this sucks. I sorted it out. But its not the end of the heartbreak.
The heart break will go on and on and on, and you will always, in the end, get hurt.
That is, until, you find someone that you just click with. Of course, it won't be perfect, but no relationships are, and they all require work. But when there is someone who is as much your best friend as your other half, you know its right.
Could meet them tomorrow, could be in 20 years time.
Don't rush things, just wait.
You will be found.
And btw, I'm 17, so I don't know anything. Its just my view on the world after 17 years of watching it.
He's either....
a) not as into you as you think. If he was he'd move heaven and earth to be with you. I know I've tried to do that for girls I've liked in the past.
b) Emotionally immature and not capable of talking to you and treating you like another human being or
c) Scared witless by the way he feels about you.
My money's on the first one followed by the other two in order of likeliness.
There could of course be many, many other reasons why all this is happening. Leave him a message explaining how you feel on facebook, bebo, txt etc. Don't make it too heavy or emotional, keep it light hearted or you will probably scare him off completely and sound like a stalker. Leave it up to him to get back to you, give him a week or so and don't contact him again. If he really wants you he'll get in touch, if he doesn't then your better off without him.
Life's too short to bother with blokes who're going to treat you badly. There are plenty of us out there who have good hearts and will treat you as you deserve to be treated.
Look after yourself and don't be a mug!
;) Absolutely
Ah the trouble with young love. Infatuation is really a killer.
I was completely under a girl a while ago. Everything I did revolved around her.
I realised, mate, this sucks. I sorted it out. But its not the end of the heartbreak.
The heart break will go on and on and on, and you will always, in the end, get hurt.
That is, until, you find someone that you just click with. Of course, it won't be perfect, but no relationships are, and they all require work. But when there is someone who is as much your best friend as your other half, you know its right.
Could meet them tomorrow, could be in 20 years time.
Don't rush things, just wait.
You will be found.
And btw, I'm 17, so I don't know anything. Its just my view on the world after 17 years of watching it.
its also a problem with old love too :(
Well guys,
Its over and he can find out for himself :)
Thats how bitchy i'm going to be, I did nothing, Im sick of it.
I might consider being friends.
He was on bebo 1 hour ago, I left him a msg about whats happen between us and he never replyed so I guess he doesnt actually care.
I said to him.. Look whats happen between us
I know you dont want to hurt my feelings, well to late you already have. We have to sort this out face-2-face.
Does that sound immature?
xx
Well guys,
Its over and he can find out for himself :)
Thats how bitchy i'm going to be, I did nothing, Im sick of it.
I might consider being friends.
He was on bebo 1 hour ago, I left him a msg about whats happen between us and he never replyed so I guess he doesnt actually care.
I said to him.. Look whats happen between us
I know you dont want to hurt my feelings, well to late you already have. We have to sort this out face-2-face.
Does that sound immature?
xx
sounds like you are doing the right thing.
I am a f***er when it comes to girls, I dont like confrontation so I always do it the easiest way, messenger, txt or phone.. its very low but I dont know it allows me to be distant and not get emotional... that sounds so horrible when its other people that are concerned too.
my ex who I am pretty hung up on and I dont know why (she is all I think about for about 90% of the day) I havent seen for about a year, and i really messed with her about a month ago and its come that I have to take the fall and meet her otherwise I will never know how I feel about her.
Thats the problem, the longer you dont see someone the more time you have to idealise their faults.. anyhow I rant.
You dont sound like a bitch frankee, you have to make a stand sometimes otherwise you'll end up hurting your self over nothing.
So thats me and craig ended it. pfft he's acting like a looser.
he didnt tell me, but he got his friend to :razz:
this is the convo; me and his friend stuart had on msn.
(16:44) Stuart: Been at Craigs all day
(16:44) frankee...: aw
(16:44) frankee...: did u speak to him
(16:45) Stuart: Yes, I did.
(16:45) frankee...: take it its over between me n him..
(16:46) Stuart: Well he said he dosen't want to be in a relationship and then said he tried to tell you and you wouldn't listen so hes just doing what hes doing now.
(16:46) frankee...: right.
(16:47) frankee...: yeah i kno
(16:47) frankee...: and we sorted that out
(16:47) frankee...: but whys he ignoring me
(16:47) Stuart: Cause he dosen't want to be in a relationship
(16:47) frankee...: why cant he just talk to me
(16:47) frankee...: but why cant he tell me
(16:47) frankee...: to my face
(16:48) Stuart: I don't know, I didn't ask him that
(16:48) frankee...: why doesnt he want to be in a realtionship.. does he not like me tht way.. n the first place why did he "like me"
(16:49) Stuart: I guess he did like you but not anymore.
(16:53) Stuart: To be honest. I have no idea.
(16:54) Stuart: I didn't like the way he was handling it though, Not speaking to you.
(16:54) frankee...: exactly
(16:54) Stuart: He should have said to you.
So yea how nice of him,
He has just deleted his bebo aswell, Dont know why he's acting like this. I was really :( earlier but im ok now. I guess. On wednesday im going out with them and he will be there. It's his lose and also
I was talking to a girl kerry that turned out to be his ex.... woah small world..
they went out for 6 months. he told me some lies, because he said that he only went with someone for 2 months and that he never went out with her. meh:S
EdinburghGary
24-06-2008, 15:42
Oooh its like Eastenders. Can I get a catchup thread? :)
EdinburghGary
24-06-2008, 15:46
Well I have just caught up. Dump him, go clubbing, get new bloke, enjoy life :)
Make sure you rub his face in it! ;)
Gary.
LKavaney
24-06-2008, 15:56
walk away! you can do better. You obviously seem to be caring and whilst a lot of young men don't seem to have kind women as a high priority there are some that do! Keep on keeping on. "the one" will appear, likely in the oddest of places. Don't ever let a man think you don't have other options!
Eastenders should be shot! lol
EdinburghGary
24-06-2008, 16:17
Eastenders should be shot! lol
It is shot, a few times a week, somewhere in London I think...with Video cams and all sort of modern wizardry!
:D
:coat:
Eastenders should be shot! lol
Shall we add gary to that list as well? ;) :D
I've followed this since it started, and I have to say .. listen to the holy-grail of life "Friends".
So, as Joey would tell - after getting a girl to bed - to break-up he uses a very trusted and proven method ... act all weird and distant and the girl will get the hint. If she doesn't he'd tell her something about not being marriage material?!?
Hmmm, can I be rather harsh here?
Its not very long is it? We've all been there, you think they are the one for you, you want to be with them forever, yadda yadda... it doesnt always work out.
Noone deserves to be mucked about, dont go chasing him, and whatever happens, happens.
If you're not willing to listen to all types of advice, then you dont really want our advice after all.
Good luck :)
:agree:
When my daughter was born, I whispered into her ear a small prayer, told her that the only thing I could guarantee her were that she would one day pass-away and that she may very well get her heart broken.
Allow me to tell you the same thing. Don't get too clingy on someone who didn't give you a moment's care to explain things to you. You are young and the world is out there smiling for you.
As you've said, it's summer ... just think of all the good looking, smart, caring, and MATURE guys out there aching to find you :shrug:
lol msn convos. Reminds me of when I was young.
Jimmy_Lemon
24-06-2008, 18:26
I have no idea what's going on.
I have no idea what's going on.
welcome to my world
inaneredstripe
24-06-2008, 20:48
s**g his best mate.:lol:
lifes too short realy.
if hes gonna mess you about, swap him for another model.
married 20 odd years, so what do i know?:shrug:
Better off out of it lass.
In more ways than one.
Preferably with a big drink down the pub with your mates, flirting with the bloke behind the bar and enjoying being young free and single.
I have no idea what's going on.
welcome to my world
That's because you're just not down with the kids anymore guys.
Not that it did ME much good, I hasten to add ;)
welcome to todays episode of the love boat :D
Love is wonderful, with the right person! :)
lol inaneredstriple
i'm not mean like that haha...
his mates are all sound
haha guys theres another thread were you might understand it more about this topic (:
badgerbaiter
25-06-2008, 07:55
It is shot, a few times a week, somewhere in London I think...with Video cams and all sort of modern wizardry!
:D
:coat:
Elstree and on location in sunny Watford
That's because you're just not down with the kids anymore guys.
Not that it did ME much good, I hasten to add ;)
im not down with the kids no, but i is fat...does that count, or does it have to be spelt right?:shrug:
Well, it may be 'Out Of Focus' but as not everyone reads every single thread, this latest one appeared rather random.
Ive merged the threads being as its the same topic ... also makes a bit more sense now to those who may wish to follow! :)
jeangenie
25-06-2008, 15:41
Hi frankee
Sorry, this guy doesn't sound like the soul mate you thought he might be. Try and put him down to experience. To paraphrase the old saying about frogs and princes - if you haven't met a few frogs along the way, how do you recognise your prince when he turns up in your life.
And, who knows, this experience may help you help a mate when the same thing happens to him/her. (It works both ways.)
Have fun - go shopping, go clubbing, eat chocolate, take photos - whatever makes you happy. Enjoy your freedom til the next great guy comes along.
Jean
Oh just forget him and go get yourself a cleansing (insert procrastination activity word here) ;)
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