In my opinion, it is very sensible to plan and think about these things.
To OP - I would say that 50 is not too old to be a new dad if the person is really committed to being a loving full on dad. Some younger dads are too immature to be looking after a family, so being more mature can be an advantage as you might be calmer, more forgiving etc.
The fact is it will be potentially be harder to conceive at 38 than at a younger age - so the question is not just starting a family NOW, but possibly a bit down the line. Helpfully, I think the answer is down to the individual concerned, but I suspect that the father's age is not unusually high.
FWIW (probs nothing) I am about to turn 40 and my husband is 52, and I kind of made a decision a long time ago that I didn't want children. I still reserve the right to change my
In all things its not about rights but choice.mind, if I have a biological clock and it ever starts ticking
men over 50 are statistically more likely to be firing blanks (or at least fewer live rounds to blanks ratio) but you can always get tested if that worries you
The other thing thats worth mentioning is to make sure you have more than adequate life insurance (thats really true at any age, but given that when the kids are at uni you'll be a minimum of 68 , it would be good to guarantee that if you die before then your missus will be able to afford to look after them until thet can look after themselves)
But those are practical considerations - ethically i can't see any problem, you are both adults and its no ones business other than yours
( my wife is ten years younger than me (40 and 30) while one of my colleagues age 43 is with a 62 year old )
The fact is it will be potentially be harder to conceive at 38 than at a younger age - so the question is not just starting a family NOW, but possibly a bit down the line. Helpfully, I think the answer is down to the individual concerned, but I suspect that the father's age is not unusually high.
FWIW (probs nothing) I am about to turn 40 and my husband is 52, and I kind of made a decision a long time ago that I didn't want children. I still reserve the right to change my mind, if I have a biological clock and it ever starts ticking
A man who is not far from 50 meets a new lady who is 38.
They hit it off and decide to get married. Are they too old to start a family?
Serious question.
An update. They decided to just get on with it and baby is due in July !
An update. They decided to just get on with it and baby is due in July !
I'd just say good luck toyouthem do whatyouthey feel is right
(all these "my mate" threads are nearly always about the OP )
Irrespect of who is asking the question, if the couple need to put the question on the web to find an answer then neither are mature enough to consider having kids imo.
That's a bit harsh I think - what's wrong with using a forum of people to help you work through a concern? It's not always ideal to confide in 'real life' friends / family and the anonymity of the web means you can be much more candid.
Think of it from the child's point of view... Would you have wanted a 70 year old Dad at the age of 18? I know I wouldn't.
I'm sorry, the problem with having a 70 year old dad when you are 18 is what exactly?
I suppose there are different ways of looking at the "older parent" situation, but I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of calling other people on their personal choices.
Having said that, I had a friend in Hong Kong who was 76 and had a 3 year old daughter. He was as fit as most younger men, but..............
I'm sorry, the problem with having a 70 year old dad when you are 18 is what exactly?
in my mind, 50 is far too old to be having children. I'm 38 and my eldest is 8 - I wish I had been younger when we started having kids. in saying that I'm the same age as my dad when he started a family back in 72
I'm sorry, the problem with having a 70 year old dad when you are 18 is what exactly?