almost there (unless I am misunderstanding your post)
and for that silky look from say a seascape late at night when it's dusk I'd want to use the heavier NDs ,
the less ambient light, the lighter (lower ND number) the ND you would require to create the effect.
If you had a waterfall, that you could get a nice crisp water image at f/4, and t 1/125, and you knew at around t 1/6 you would get a blurred sheet of water, you could either
1) wait for dusk, and shoot f/4, t 1/6
2) shoot f/32 t 1/6
3) add an nd 8 filter, and shoot f/4 t 1/6
The numbers are kinda about right I think
so if i was thinking of shooting a really bright sunset or sunrise I'd be using the lighter ND
Well, to add a little more confusion to the pot.....
There are filters called ND Grads as well. Usually, half of the plate is clear. The other half of the plate is gradually getting darker, to a level of ND stated on the filter (ND2 for example). For shooting things like a sunset, where the sky is bright, but the ground is dark, you want to reduce the amount of light coming in from the sky, but not the ground.
To mix it up a bit more, the description I gave above is called a Soft ND grad, there is also a hard ND grad, which has more dark on the dark side. I.e. the boundary between light and dark is in the same place, but it gets to the dark amount quicker.