You have 3 choices
1. Guess
2. Guess & check
3. Calculate
DOF behind the subject will always be more than infront of the subject, hence, to get what you want to achieve, you may need to manually focus at a slightly shorter distance than "bang on the subject"
tools in the box...
A. Focus manually & use the DOF preview button, followed by chimping
B. Use a DOF calculator
C. Some older lenses have a indication of what will be in focus on the side
The DOF calculator wont take into account the edge performance of your lens, which if it is slightly poorer then the centre, may actually help contribute to making the foreground look a touch more blurry
There is a fourth way (really good way)...
use a tripod, shoot multiple exposures at different F'stops & focus points. Blend the images in Photoshop. I have seen this technique used to actually have a near point in focus, the middle blurry, and the distance subject tac sharp. This is particularly powerful trick for subliminally unsettling and steering a consumer in an advertising shot