Working the way you are is complicated, mixing auto-TTL with studio flash. There's some good advice here but also some misinformation.
You cannot use studio flash with auto-TTL. The pre-flash (which is so fast you can't see it) triggers the studio units which then fire too early and this sounds like your main problem.
To get around that, you must disable the pre-flash (not disable the main flash) but you can only do that by switching the flash to full manual control. Not sure you can do that; you cannot use fully manual flash on my Canon cameras for example, only with a separate gun. Nikon might be different.
If you can set the camera flash to fully manual, you're in business. Set it on a low power so that it doesn't affect the main picture too much but is strong enough to trigger the optical slaves on the studio units.
Set the shutter to 1/125sec and leave it there. Adjust the exposure with flash power, f/number and ISO. Shutter speed makes no difference to the flash exposure. (Google focal plane shutter to find out how it's all working.)
If you cannot set the camera flash to manual, you can use a cable sync lead. You might have got one with the flash kit. It will have a co-ax socket to plug into the camera. If the D80 doesn't have a sync socket, buy a £5 hot-shoe adapter from Jessops. You only need to sync up one flash head and if you have two or more they will fire off it via their optical slaves.
The other way is to do it with radio triggers. Yongnuo RF-602 is favourite these days. £28 for a set of transmitter and receiver units from Flash In The Pan on here post #2
http://www.talkphotography.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=157807
Edit: The problem looks like flash sync, not exposure. A flash meter is very useful but you need to get everyting firing properly first. Just to get one or two lights exposing correctly, you can do that without a flash meter by chimping the LCD with blinkies enabled and checking the histogram. A flash meter is most useful when trying to balance multiple lighting ratios; always go by the histogram for final exposure setting anyway.