Also untrue.
Every DSLR on the market is beaten for quantum efficiency (that's the percentage of light hitting the sensor that becomes electrons) and read noise (the noise added by all the electronics between hitting the photosite and being written to a file) by compact camera sensors. The sensors that come closest are the G3's sensor and the D3s. (fun fact: if Canon did nothing but make the 1D4's sensor FF, that would make it near indistinguishable or maybe slightly better than the D3s for high ISO noise but with better DR and 26MP. Would be kind of expensive though (IIRC they would need to retool a factory to be able to do multiple passes on the same wafer.).
In other words, right now it is possible to make a 100MP sensor with better than D3s noise performance at the image level.
There are many reasons this isn't done (for one, we don't have the read electronics to get a decent framerate out of it given the frequency that they'd need to run at), but the biggest is cost. DSLR sensors tend to get made on junk steppers. For reference, i think Canon still uses 130 if not 180nm equipment for its sensors where CMOS cutting edge is 22nm (but that won't get used for image sensors for a long time). It's not cost effective to use newer tech for DSLRs when the rest of the imaging chain hasn't caught up, and the cost required would be astronomical. You can get 20 1/1.7 (s95 size sensors) in the same wafer area as a FF sensor, and you'll get better yields from them to boot given a defect will only affect 1 of those 20 where it would wreck that whole FF sensor. So even if the electronics could keep up, I don't think there's much of a market for a £30,000+ FF DSLR
You're right here. The best CMOS sensors collect about 60% of the light
after the CFA (again, looking at sensors pixel size simply doesn't come into it in DSLR or even compact camera ranges). There's light lost to reflection off the microlenses, off the photosite itself, off the wiring, then light that penetrates too far...
That's not counting the light absorbed by the CFA itself. We could try using 3 sensor cameras with dichroic prisms, but if you thought focus microadjust was an issue
now.....
For DSLR pixels, the limiting factor isn't pixel size.
I don't believe theoretical sensor IQ is the limit here. The surrounding systems (cost of making the sensor, possible framerates and heating issues, AF accuracy, ability to manufacture to sub micron accuracy with small components to a reasonable cost, and not least consumer misinformation (businesses that tell their customers that they're plain wrong don't tend to do well unless very, very specialised)) are much more of a problem.