Aye, that's it. I did a bit investigation. I have an inkjet, which needless to say prints in CMYK. I took the original in RGB with the nice vibrant lilacs and set up a print job with it, and then clicked the gamut warning. Sure enough, it flagged the whole area where the lilacs were. I printed it to see. Dull as ditchwater! Then I converted the file to CMYK. It went dull, and when I set up the print job and clicked the gamut warning, there was no flagging - as it had already thrown out all the colours it couldn't print. I printed 3 versions: sRGB, Adobe RGB and CMYK. Not a ha'p'th of difference between any of them!
That makes sense. Unfortunately. (I have colour rendering issues too - some greens as well as some purple/lilac colours. I'm thinking that some of this is probably gamut issues, but separating that out from imperfections in my techniques, colour perception and memory, screen, screen calibration etc is distinctly non-trivial.)
So, how can you print lilac?
Perhaps there are some commercial printers that print wider gamuts. Don't know. I just did a quick bit of searching, but didn't find any reference to wider-gamut printing services.
I keep reading that modern ink-jet printers have wider gamuts, but I've had no luck yet (again, only some quick searches) in finding out the gamut for any particular printer.
This post hints that even the wider printer gamuts may not be an answer to every prayer in this area. I haven't read the whole thread, but one of the subsequent posts links to
this tutorial at cambridgeincolour - it all gets a bit complicated.
I'm currently trying to work out whether to get a wide gamut monitor. It might mean I could make images with better (more accurate, more discriminating, more detailed) colour rendition for my own viewing, but I'd then have the complication of translating to sRGB for Internet use, and as for printing ??? Not sure the complications would be worthwhile.
Perhaps stick with sRGB but start using the soft proofing in Lightroom 4 (I'm a new Lightroom user, and I haven't looked at that part of Lightroom yet). According to an Adobe video I watched this lets you see what is out of gamut for particular output devices, and presents those area as selections which you can then change to in-gamut values. Not the same as getting the colour you really wanted, but it does give some control back in terms of not losing so much detail, apparently.