Neil
I was in the same boat last week and saw a post on here (cant remember who from) that gave good advice and the pics turned out OK.
Manual mode.
Shutter at 1/640
Aperture wide open
Spot metering
Continuous burst
AI servo
and ISO as required.
Worked for me. Can post up an example if required.
That was me!
Generally speaking this will work out fine for most sports, and is a good starting point for a number of others (such as cricket where you're going to want to be a bit faster with the shutter speed, and probably 1 stop off wide open with the aperture).
However, Sting...I've noticed you mentioned Auto AF point. The problem with having "auto AF" is that it will generally pick the easiest point. Canon's AF system works by identifying areas of contrast and colour difference. Meaning that a polar bear on an iceberg will be much more difficult to focus on than a sunflower with a blue sky. When you use Auto AF, it will pick the focus on whichever it finds easiest...so if your son was wearing green and there's a green background, it will be more difficult to focus on.
The way to overcome this is by forcing the camera to focus with the centre (or any other manually selected) AF point.
The AF system will sometimes have to work harder, and it might frustrate you with it's apparent inefficiencies sometimes, but it is certainly better than entrusting the camera with the task.
In addition, i know it's not always easy (and too late for this year), but the less cluttered your background is then the easier it will be to acheive focus. The shot posted above would be a nightmare for the camera, as there's a lot of similar coloured clothing with very little physical distance between them (ie. the kids stood watching are very close to your son running)...the camera won't have a chance! And that's not just the 450D (before anyone starts!)...that's any camera!
As for the settings posted, as I said, these are a good start...sometimes you'll have to adjust a bit to get them properly exposed, but thats fine, they are a good starting point, and (certainly with the shutter speed) are the minimum you should go for!
Drop me a PM if you want any more advice.
James.