Riz, I think you need a stern talk with yourself about what is stopping you getting out and about with your camera, then make the equipment adjustments to suit.
Is it weight/size, because a gripped A9 with Zoom lens isn't exactly stealthy, lightweight or capable of being slipped into the wife's handbag.
I suspect that you just need something a whole lot smaller to be more portable and get out and about taking photo's, so rather than ultimate IQ why don't you just buy a little prime, slap it on the A9 (which is not a big camera) and just take it everywhere, get some images under your belt, when the bug comes back, you can start taking out the zooms etc, but in all seriousness you are not going to lug the gear you have now on a family day out.
(Or buy an X100F
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