Here's how I think it is when in manual mode ,when looking through the lens im trying get the exposure on the middle of the meter buy a combinationof shutter speed and apperture and maybe iso ? Have I understood this ok and what makes this so different from say auto
If you use it like that, you are only doing what the camera will do for your automatically. Apart from one very important thing - it is locked at those settings until you change it, regardless of what happens to the light, or the subject. Think of manual as a Set & Lock mode.
The other modes are either fully automatic, or semi-automatic. P is full auto and it will set both shutter speed and lens aperture for you, on a sliding scale. The green square is similar, but also sets a few other things and locks you out of changing others - best avoided.
The other modes are semi-automatic. A (or Av for aperture value) is aperture-priority, where you choose the lens aperture (f/number) and the camera matches that with the correct shutter speed. S (or Tv for time value) is shutter-priority where you choose the shutter speed and the camera selects the appropriate lens aperture.
The camera's meter makes assumptions about the nature of the subject, basically that when everything in the scene is scrambled up together it equates to mid grey, though different metering modes have a different twist on this to try to get it right. However, none of them is foolproof and when the subject does not scramble up to mid-grey, becuase it's a snow scene for example, or a black cat in a coal cellar, then it will get it wrong.
This is what the exposure compensation controls are for, to allow you to make corrections, usually after you've looked at the LCD and histogram etc for guidance. They are a kind of manual override, or you can just set everything fully manually yourself, in M mode, which is where we came in
