Excellent advice from YV. I'm probably at the stage that Kelly is at. I started doing a few months of only shootng my daughter (and her Girls World head) and am now doing them for friends and some people that I don't know through word of mouth from people I've done shoots for. I've spent hours reading these forums, reading and watching tutorials, practicing both shooting and post processing. Starting to do other people's children has been a real learning curve and ever child, or group of children is different.
A couple of things I've learnt
A couple of minutes setting out expectations is time well spent. I always re-stress that I am learning, and doing shoots to get more experience and to improve my skills. I always mention that I've had a couple of shoots that have been a dream where the subject was brilliant, listened, posed, smiled but I've also had some where it has been difficult or near impossible to get a good shot where the child was uncooperative, not listening etc.
After the first couple of shoots for other people I stopped having the parent in the room unless necessary with a very young child. I explain to the child that cos there's not a lot of room and lots of equipment that it will be just the two of us and ask if they are okay with that. Away from the parent(s) I have found they listen more and their focus is on you. I appreciate that isn't possible in all setups but I've found it gives me much better results.
If I've got a group of kids to do, I'll do a few shots of them each individually just so they get to experience me explaining how I want them to sit etc then they all have some idea of what's going to happen when they are shot together.
On the one occasion that I've had a kid who just wouldn't listen, wouldn't keep still and had apparently consumed 6 litres of Sunny D before arrival, I stopped it and told his mum I was sorry but I couldn't get the sort of shots she was after as he was 'overexcited' and told her I'd be willing to try another time but ideally when he was more amenable. I try to be as upfront with people as possible.
Coaxing and getting the best out of kids is something you only learn along the way and everyone is different, there's never going to be a formula and always going to be some that are just darn terrible. I learn something new with every shoot I do and it's as much a skill to be learnt and practiced and improved upon as using your equipment. Six months ago I probably did pretty much think it was just about kit and knowing how to use it but have found out that it's all about the people every bit as much.
Don't be downhearted. Bad shoots are every bit as important as the ones that go well I reckon, and an unhappy customer, even for a freebie, is an opportunity to learn how to better handle things in future.
Hope your second shoot goes well.