TBH, I've lost the actual point of this thread, as it's morphed from a sincere (if ill-worded) question into a fight against know-it-alls.
Despite what many people think, there isn't a holy grail' of performance; we just have to deal with what we have at our disposal and hope that in this digital age where improvements come weekly and monthly, we can still keep up with our own expectations as to what is deemed acceptable.
I'd start off by saying that you may be wanting to see too much from your trusty (but dated) 350D, but to counter that, I'd also add that it's not like trying to match the quality of a D3x by using a pinhole. You obviously have a few bits of good glass to go to, but good glass on its own will not be a wholesale fix to issues you have that are based more around inflated expectations than actual real-world results.
You've done yourself no favours posting your first few example shots because A) they weren't that hot, but more importantly B) a lot of TP members want to see masterpieces each and every time and when you do post something a bit naff, it seems to get their photographic hackle up.
However, you've backed it up with some good shots that show you have en eye for things when you want to, which is good news, as it means you're not on a losing battle.
There have been some very salient points made about how bad exposure, poor composition and sub-standard photographic savvy can work against you in any situation. I have it every day when out shooting and unfortunately, none of us are immune to a bit of one (or all three) at some point or another in our shooting lives. I do think that you are being hard on yourself, and in turn, hard on your kit because you are looking at shots that don't have impact and are fundamentally flawed. Post something with amazing composition, attractive DoF and good tonal and colour range and you'll probably think that your gear is more than up to the task. The problem is, I suspect, you're not taking many of these 'amazing' shots so that benchmark, that milestone just seems out of reach. It isn't....well, not if you lets the law of averages work in your favour by getting out there and shooting, shooting, shooting - things will improve the more frequently you push yourself.
And don't think you're the only one who think they have dropped a ballbag; I had a shoot for a very fussy editor today who is a renowned punisher (especially when you don't get what he expects) and the angler I was with had a 41lb carp. It was 6.30am, I was cold and tired, plus the light was pretty dim. My D2x is okay at ISO 800 but for a cover shot of a fish this important, I'd rather go down to ISO 100 but i can't without either overpowering the shot with flash and losing the ambient, or using too slow a shutter speed and getting the shakes. So I underexposed slightly at a compromise of ISO 400, worked on a shallow(ish) Dof and crossed my bits that everything worked. The fish went back after cracking off 30 or so shots, only to chimp them afterwards and they all looked soft on the LCD - pants!! Even though I know LCDs aren't 100 per cent accurate (although my D2x has been better than most) I worried and worried all day about it, always having it at the back of my mind that I'd messed up royally, something i never do because this is what I do and I know I do it well. But when those doubts strike, they fester and your outlook on everything from your ability to the ability of the kit is in question. Anyway, I got home, downloaded everything and went to work in Lightroom. Yep, the raw files look a bit gash and typical of raw files, soft. But a bit of magic with a few custom presets and I got my shot, albeit needing some PS work to remove some reeds. Relieved - I am, but I know that getting a more up-to-date camera would help me. But I don't have the funds, so I'm not going to loose sleep about it. The one thing I will loose sleep about is when I loose that instinct to know how to get around a situation, then I will be scuppered because it will take me some time to get back to the level I know I'm capable of.
Don't sweat it; your gear is fine.....
*BTW, here's a crop of the 'worrying' shot before and after:
.....and here's the finished full shot (again before and after), albeit run through Photoshop's '
save for web' function which desaturates things a fair bit....
I'm happy. I know the editor will be happy. And ultimately, I'm still happy with my gear, even if I do have to work around certain problems.