Funeral Music

I've instructed in my will that I want no funeral, just a quiet cremation and disposal of ashes. Why waste money when there'll be hardly anyone there? I've been to too many funerals with few attendees and most only present to be seen to be there.
 
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Frankly no idea. Smoke on the water is tempting for the title but not so much the lyrics. There's a section of Vivaldi's The Four Seasons in the summer movement that sounds like the way you imagine a donkey walks on a hot day carrying stuff, and that slightly appeals. Maybe I should just go with the Animals Dear Lord, don't let me be misunderstood.
 
lindsay said:
I've instructed in my will that I want no funeral, just a quiet creation and disposal of ashes. Why waste money when there'll be hardly anyone there? I've been to too many funerals with few attendees and most only present to be seen to be there.
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This ^ I would far rather any friends I have left just went for a pint and told bullsh** stories about me and then got on with their lives.
 
Steep said:
This ^ I would far rather any friends I have left just went for a pint and told bullsh** stories about me and then got on with their lives.
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I want that as well.

Many years ago, our friends 17yo daughter was tragically killed is a car accident. The played her favourite song - One Step beyond – in the church, then we went to the pub and joined her friends where we drank and celebrated her life.
 
We lost a close friend early last year, he had one of those no funeral service we will just give you his ashes things. The family felt they never really got to say goodbye. It was similar when my FIL died, but MIL won't even tell us where his ashes are. My daughter now has nowhere to take here son to show him where his Great grandad is. At least with our friend we have somewhere to pay our respects.
 
I’m not a big fan of using rock or pop songs at a funeral, especially the jokey titled stuff like Highway to Hell etc. I get the sentiment of why people do it, but some songs can seem a bit crass and inappropriate. I went to a family funeral last week where the entry music to the crem service was All Right Now… it was a song that meant a lot to the couple when they first met, so I understand the choice but it was almost as if the husband was saying it was all right that his wife had died? (Similar thing to a mate of mine who had 10cc’s I’m Not in Love as the first dance at his wedding!)

Compare that to another funeral I went to yesterday for a neighbour, where they had Elgar’s Nimrod as the entry music, which seemed much more in keeping. But you pays your money and make your choice I guess? I’ll let my wife choose the music for mine, it’s not like I’ll be there to moan about it.
 
It's important for those left behind to have a sense of closure when someone they care for has died. It helps to move past the sense of loss that can otherwise feel overwhelming.
 
lindsay said:
I've instructed in my will that I want no funeral, just a quiet cremation and disposal of ashes. Why waste money when there'll be hardly anyone there? I've been to too many funerals with few attendees and most only present to be seen to be there.
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I've told my wife I'd be happy to be fly tipped!
 
lindsay said:
I've instructed in my will that I want no funeral, just a quiet cremation and disposal of ashes. Why waste money when there'll be hardly anyone there? I've been to too many funerals with few attendees and most only present to be seen to be there.
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i suspect me and the wifes will be similar as we will be resident in GC in 12 months , so suspecting just maybe some new friends but , my thoughts are a quiet one and a party full of colour and music :-) we both don't have much family in the UK and the ones remaining are very elderly.
 
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Marc said:
Sorry if this is a bid morbid, but having chronic illnesses has made me think about my mortality. Hopefully, it won't be for a few years, but I've already chosen what I want played at my funeral.

Anyone else considered this?
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Have a listen to Nigel Kennedy playing Danny Boy. That’ll tug at your heart strings ;)
 
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My daughter, who recently passed away at the very young age of 18, had her playlist ready. It surprised me, she had very mature taste for her age, she wanted Purple Rain by Prince and Forever Young by Alphabeat [whcih was played as we carried her to the hearse] for example - and those tunes went down very well. She was cremated, and her service was very much more a celebration rather than an overly sad affair.

I have never really thought about what I would like played at mine, there will definitely be some heavy rock!
 
im having light my fire by the doors as the curtains close..my missus says shes going to use relight my fire by take that...il come back and haunt her

my mum went out to nothing takes the place of you by toussaint mcall, all the words i wanted to say to her...and out to hey big spender ...she loved a bit of bassey and my god she could spend
 
Cagey75 said:
My daughter, who recently passed away at the very young age of 18, had her playlist ready. It surprised me, she had very mature taste for her age, she wanted Purple Rain by Prince and Forever Young by Alphabeat [whcih was played as we carried her to the hearse] for example - and those tunes went down very well. She was cremated, and her service was very much more a celebration rather than an overly sad affair.

I have never really thought about what I would like played at mine, there will definitely be some heavy rock!
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just to ask do you mean Forever Young by Alphaville ?
One of my fave ever songs, played at our wedding :-)
 
At my brother's we had wheels on the bus, he was a bus driver
 
My father-in-law died during Covid (not from Covid). Funeral preferences had never been discussed. We decide to select music that reflected his interests - films, jazz, horse racing and opera. We selected the following.....

Enter to: I Wish I Knew How It Felt to Be Free (instrumental) - Billy Taylor trio
Reflection: Puccini: Madama Butterfly / Act 2 - Coro a bocca chiusa (Humming Chorus)
Committal: My Way - Frank Sinatra
Exit: Ascot Gavotte (feat. André Previn) - Shelley Manne and Andre Previn

Now because it was Covid, we were limited to numbers. So we took the option of having a video recording.

The bottom line is we now have a video of what looks like very uptempo funeral. Certainly not solemn.
 
I have thought about this too, but the list keeps getting rewritten,
I have 4 or 5 for music whilst people enter the crem, a couple wifey or whomever to pick from for the time to reflect and another to play when the curtains shut.
I also have a statement to be read before the curtains shut, “Some say Martin was a good fella, others, they just tell the truth.
 
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