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As some here may be aware, I lost my sister to Covid on Easter Monday. Today we informed that her husband also fell foul to it in his sleep last night.
Yesterday we finally got confirmation that CV19 was the cause of death; that's well over a week, but the delays are down to just so many people dying, and of course, staff self isolating reducing the number of people available to deal with the crisis.
Now, heres the real kick in the nuts....
My Sister has 2 daughters & 3 grandchildren, the youngest of who are 18. We are limited to how many can be at the funeral, which means myself and my brother will not be able to go. My other sister was quite close to her so she & her husband will be there.
We cannot dress her for the funeral, she will just be robed in a cotton material similar to the lining of the coffin.
She can't have the wicker casket that she always wanted
As we won't be there, my brother, myself, and brother-in-law cannot help carry the coffin, which is a tradition in our family
In a way I'm glad I won't be there as I won't be able to hug my sister, brother or her two daughters (that will really hurt)
We haven't even thought about her husband yet.
While everybody is up in arms blaming everybody and pointing fingers, there is a real human emotional cost to this.
What scares me even more is that as the youngest sibling at 58, (my brother is 72, my other sister is 70) it's driven home that I may have to attend another two funerals in the next 15-20 years, something I'm not emotionally fit to do if this one is anything to go by.
I'm quickly coming to the assumption we should all enjoy life while we can and stop worrying about what anybody else thinks about you. It's true, life is short.....
As some here may be aware, I lost my sister to Covid on Easter Monday. Today we informed that her husband also fell foul to it in his sleep last night.
Yesterday we finally got confirmation that CV19 was the cause of death; that's well over a week, but the delays are down to just so many people dying, and of course, staff self isolating reducing the number of people available to deal with the crisis.
Now, heres the real kick in the nuts....
My Sister has 2 daughters & 3 grandchildren, the youngest of who are 18. We are limited to how many can be at the funeral, which means myself and my brother will not be able to go. My other sister was quite close to her so she & her husband will be there.
We cannot dress her for the funeral, she will just be robed in a cotton material similar to the lining of the coffin.
She can't have the wicker casket that she always wanted
As we won't be there, my brother, myself, and brother-in-law cannot help carry the coffin, which is a tradition in our family
In a way I'm glad I won't be there as I won't be able to hug my sister, brother or her two daughters (that will really hurt)
We haven't even thought about her husband yet.
While everybody is up in arms blaming everybody and pointing fingers, there is a real human emotional cost to this.
What scares me even more is that as the youngest sibling at 58, (my brother is 72, my other sister is 70) it's driven home that I may have to attend another two funerals in the next 15-20 years, something I'm not emotionally fit to do if this one is anything to go by.
I'm quickly coming to the assumption we should all enjoy life while we can and stop worrying about what anybody else thinks about you. It's true, life is short.....