No worries.......
A big stopper is normally a 10 stop filter - it cuts the light reaching the sensor down to around 1,000th of what it would be without the filter. This is so dark that you normally can't use your camera's meter to work out the exposure, focus or effectively do much while the filter is in place.
When it comes to getting the right exposure with the big stopper what you would normally do is work out what is correct without the filter using your cameras meter - let's say for the sake of argument this is 1/10th of a second at f/11. So to get the correct exposure with the filter in place you need to multiply the shutter speed by 1,000 - in this case that would give you a 100 second exposure. You would then use either manual or the bulb settings to give you that shutter speed. Bearing in mind that with a big stopper these times can go into minutes so bulb and a cable release are usually the way to go.
Now the thing is that there is variation in just how dark each individual filter is - it may not be 10 stops exactly - I know mine isn't. So multiplying by 1,000 might not be the right amount for your particular filter and in my case would lead to a very underexposed image. I worked out that the right number for mine is 1,600. So if the shutter speed required without the filter in place is 1/10th of a second, with my big stopper I'll give it a 160 second exposure.
Because of the long, sometimes minutes, exposure times needed with big stoppers, getting the right exposure by trial and error can take a long time - so it's best to know just how much you need to 'dial in' before going out on an expedition!
The way I did it was to take a photo - I just used my back garden - without the filter in place. I then started taking photos with the big stopper in place using longer shutter speeds and comparing each of the histograms of the images until the one from an image with the filter in place was that same as the histogram from the original image. From this I was able to tell that for my particular filter I needed to use a shutter speed 1,600 times as long in order to get the correct exposure with the filter.
Hope that's a bit clearer