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Problem? It's in the Collins dictionary.
So are Insensitive and Pillock.
Problem? It's in the Collins dictionary.
If you are referring to the blood on the bed and carpet, her boyfriend has already said it wasn't his blood but her own as she had cut her hand on a broken glass, he hasn't retracted that as far as I am aware and blood tests would confirm his statement. He has also said that she didn't hit him with the lamp.
And when correctly used appropriate.
I don't find your use, presumably aimed at me, offensive, such a shame that valid words/phrases are now subject to evaluation by a minority.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pillock
Noun for Idiot, fool. Originally a slang term for the penis but fairly inoffensive now its this meaning has been forgotten.
See, what was once offensive now by popular view is no longer so and vice versa, but nowhere could I find the phrase I used deemed as offensive, perhaps a public vote should be had?
Insensitive - a matter of degree and subjective, I'll accept you may have felt me insensitive, or Viv may have done, for which I apologise as that wasn't my intention, the phrase I used has been in common use for at least 60 years and was certainly never intended to be offensive when I grew up, again perhaps a public vote?
Maybe we should put all our posts up for vote before posting in case they offend someone?
Lost their marbles?
Really?
So are Insensitive and Pillock.
couple of comments were made about Dutch brothels,smoking cannabis and lastly.."Or showing Nazis round your house and taking them on a tour of the attic" An unambiguous reference to Anne Frank and her family hiding from the Nazis in Amstrdam although it was a secret annexe not an attic.
Is it about being offended though?WTF! This thread is a classic case of people looking to be offended by absolutely anything! How the hell do you actually get through life?
If you want to properly be offended skip back a generation and watch your mate get his head blown off Infront of you whilst invading the beaches of Normandy!
Stop whining and winging about a sentence - if I say 'they have lost their marbles' and you get offended reading it then it is you with the problem not I!
I bet there is no one on here that knows the person involved personally so why consider someone using a well known expression as being 'insensative'?Is it about being offended though?
Not for me. I'm not offended.
Does that mean folks can say what they like?
Well they can, but doesn't mean they can't or shouldn't be criticised for being insensitive.
That is totally different from offensive.
I think the most offensive think they can get away with it by accusing everyone that objects of being whiners, whingers and snowflakes.
Well good for you........what is wrong with just saying suffering from mental health issues?I find it a polite way of saying suffering from mental health issues.
Banging on about it! You replied to my response questioning it and I have replied - hardly banging on about it! Some call making a reply polite.Well good for you........what is wrong with just saying suffering from mental health issues?
Oh wait, it doesn't provoke the same reaction.....
You've made it clear how you feel, and that's up to you, so no need to keep banging on about it.
Perhaps it is you who should be seeking help?
If you find the expression 'lost their marbles' as insensitive or offensive go and seek help.
I find it a polite way of saying suffering from mental health issues.
If you feel otherwise the perhaps 'you have lost your marbles'?'
Only ever see you raise your head from the swamp to stir the s*** and share your bigoted views.
Have you ever posted a photography based reply?
Do you really, honestly find reading a post from a forum member containing the phrase 'lost their marbles' insensitive or offensive when you didn't personally know the person?
I don't and not sure why that makes someone a bigot?
These comments refer to the vast majority of your posts.
I ask again, do you ever post anything photography related?
I find it a polite way of saying suffering from mental health issues.
If you feel otherwise the perhaps 'you have lost your marbles'?'
You're the one that comes across as being the most intolerant of others views.A bigot is someone who is intolerant of others views -
Have you any research to back up that claim, or is it just your opinion?Its a derogatory, albeit colloquial, way of saying someone has lost their mind.
I don't find it offensive, just childish, but someone with mental health issues might, or at the very least see it as a way of belittling their issues.
Context is everything Matt, and in this case we're talking about people who have committed suicide. It's commonly defined as someone who has gone insane or lost their mind, although it hasn't always. I'm not sure either of those descriptions can necessarily be used for people who have killed themselves.Have you any research to back up that claim, or is it just your opinion?
We seem to have crossed wires here. I wasn't actually referring to your use of the phrase, and I never for a moment thought you had meant to cause offence.You stated someone with mental issues might be offended or felt their condition was belittled by the phrase I used, but unless research is done to establish their feelings your statement is merely your opinion (which may or may not be accurate) and I find it frustrating that posts are being made suggesting someone would be offended by my use of a phrase which has been used at least since I was a child without any intent to offend.
I have stated quite clearly I wont use the phrase again as I do not wish to cause offense or belittle anyone's feelings, but still people are posting how insensitive, childish or ill thought out my post was.
What exactly should I do to bring this all to a close? It's been done to death, I made a mistake, I apologized (time and again) but still it's being re-posted.
WTF! This thread is a classic case of people looking to be offended by absolutely anything! How the hell do you actually get through life?
If you want to properly be offended skip back a generation and watch your mate get his head blown off Infront of you whilst invading the beaches of Normandy!
Stop whining and winging about a sentence - if I say 'they have lost their marbles' and you get offended reading it then it is you with the problem not I!
It's a tragedy for close family members and loved ones but I did agree with the intended prosecution even if the alleged victim didn't, if the evidence is there and assuming it's a genuine case and not a show trial (I never thought that) as some have suggested and assuming that the system can provide help rather than a more traditional custodial sentence punishment if help is more appropriate.
There's a whole load of questions about the media, social media and how things get into the media and those are valid questions that should be addressed.
One thing that occurs to me is how this case would be reported and viewed by social media and wider society if the roles the sexes had in this were reversed and a popular male celebrity was accused of assaulting a female partner. Maybe it'd be just the same. Whatever the case I do think it's interesting to look at how who or what you are could lead to more serious implications but any protections for the rich and or famous should be extended to all.
The boyfriend said he was Not hit with a lamp ( police say he was ) he says blood on the bed was hers and the police say it`s his. So I say even though she has sadly died, do a DNA on the blood from the bed and if it is hers then police need to look at them selfs and answer why they have screwed up yet again because some one IS lying and if it`s the police then who ever should be sacked as they can`t be trusted but if it`s the boy friend lying then get him in court.
The boyfriend said he was Not hit with a lamp ( police say he was ) he says blood on the bed was hers and the police say it`s his. So I say even though she has sadly died, do a DNA on the blood from the bed and if it is hers then police need to look at them selfs and answer why they have screwed up yet again because some one IS lying and if it`s the police then who ever should be sacked as they can`t be trusted but if it`s the boy friend lying then get him in court.
I worked in a rehab for folk who had mental health issues, and sadly many folk have a stigma about mental health. To me that is their problem and if they can`t handle it then tough get a life. For me it did not offend at all how it was said as at the end of the day some folk say it a different way to what others would, the only thing that some times upsets me is when you get the trolls saying this that and everything, when really it might make them feel big and strong but really that sort of person is just sad and needs to trot on as they don`t know what on earth they are talking about.
Mental health is very personal to me and when you get the creeps saying stupid things then yes it could upset me as they don`t know diddly - squat about what they are saying. As to me that sort of person is like the big school bully in the play ground trying to look their best, but I can and do look at this person and might think Yes you really are a sad person who likes to try and score points when really deep inside your own mind it is screaming OH I`m so lonely and sad so I will play up. I don`t work any more in Turning Point now but for me as I have Mental Health issues for the rest of my life, it was a great pleasure to help folk in the rehab because I put in what I got.
How very, very strange!
Lets look at your post #68. (Not the one quoted above)
You clearly know nothing about the Criminal Justice System, the role of the Police or the CPS within that system.
You also clearly do not know how crimes are investigated but start demanding that 'they' should be doing this that or the other.
You do not know any of the persons involved in the incident or what they have actually said
You only know what has been reported.
You find it offensive that someone should use a 'common' phrase
............yet you don't find it wrong to get involved in a discussion about a celebrity taking their own life or being the suspect of a criminal offence on a public internet forum, relying only on pure speculation for your postings.
I think the people involved would certainly find the discussion of this tragic event by people who didn't know them, have no knowledge of the facts and have no understanding of how matters are investigated far more offensive; in the end of the day is this not worse than the gutter press who we are blaming?
Speculation and conjecture by laypeople doesn't offer any dignity.
More offensive than someone suggesting they'd lost their marbles enough to take their own life?(Sorry Matt, I know you didn't mean to cause offence)I think the people involved would certainly find the discussion of this tragic event by people who didn't know them, have no knowledge of the facts and have no understanding of how matters are investigated far more offensive;
I'd imagine that people on the verge of suicide are not thinking rationally.It would appear that she gave no thought to how her family and close friends might be devastated by her suicide.
From what I have read, her suicide wasn't anything to do with being a celebrity or being in the spotlight.Did Caroline Flack have a history of mental illness (assuming her alleged mental illness is true, and I don't know either way)?
What sort of mental illness? What on earth is 'normal' anyway? Perhaps 'mental illness' needs to be redefined.
Did she take her own life because she couldn't cope with no longer being in that particular spotlight?
Anyone who the public and media view as a 'celebrity' of some sort surely realises that they are in the spotlight.
Did she not realise that she could turn her life around and do something else in life?
It would appear that she gave no thought to how her family and close friends might be devastated by her suicide.