Unless I am mistaken, a DVD ROM is a DVD. They are one and the same.
What problems are you experiencing?
I think the issue you are having, is that your not finalising the disk properly/correctly once you've burnt data to it have
Only way you could do it, is if you ripped the data off the disk, and burnt a new disk that could play on your DVD player, although I hesitate to recommend this, as I'm not sure if it classes as a form of piracy/copyright infringement or not.
I doubt if it would infringe any copyright laws as i have paid for the original, and if i ripped it as you describe it would be for my own personal use only